Guest post written by my buddy Bernardo Graham
As a child growing up in Texas, I was raised by great parents in a medium income family. We really didn’t have a lot, but we learned how to stretch a dollar and get our money’s worth in whatever we bought. My dad was always the one to teach us about buying cars and houses and all the things that went along with those. My mom taught me how to shop for everything in a house and how to find the best bargains on my clothes. I don’t think that we ever bought anything that was not on some type of sale or that we did not have a coupon for. So when I got out on my own of course I got my dad to help me find the perfect house for me. He also told me to shop for my electricity company through Electricity companies. He always knows where to look for anything to go along with a house. Now my mom is going to help me start filling up the place with some used furniture that she gave me, and she is going to help me sew my own curtains. Before I know it, this place is going to look like home.
HER LLC
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Seasons change
I love the spring - always have. I love watching the trees and flowers bloom, the warm weather, and the red robins, yellow cardinals and bluejays flying around. The air smells "springy" and people seem to be more happy.
So it is with the seasons of life. Life takes us through changes - some good and some not so good, but "For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven."
Personally I was not be prepared for the changes that my life took and I definitely didn't necessarily like those changes either, but somehow I adjusted.
Right now my life's season seems to be in sync with the weather. The winter of my life has passed and I am now in a season of new beginnings. Sometimes I reminisce about the past, going back and forth about "what could have been" or "what should have been", but you know what I read this morning? This:
Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
Now if that's not confirmation from the Word, then I don't know what is!
Peace and Love!
So it is with the seasons of life. Life takes us through changes - some good and some not so good, but "For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven."
Personally I was not be prepared for the changes that my life took and I definitely didn't necessarily like those changes either, but somehow I adjusted.
Right now my life's season seems to be in sync with the weather. The winter of my life has passed and I am now in a season of new beginnings. Sometimes I reminisce about the past, going back and forth about "what could have been" or "what should have been", but you know what I read this morning? This:
Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
Now if that's not confirmation from the Word, then I don't know what is!
Peace and Love!
Friday, February 10, 2012
Few Things
Content by Mauricio Benson
There are very few things I enjoy more than snuggling up with my husband on the couch after a long day at work. I know it's so typical and American but we are really lazy when it comes to being at home… All we want to do is turn on the TV and veg out for a few hours. I recently went to www.tvbydirect.com to see about getting us some of the premium movie channels because all my friends kept talking about all the great shows on Showtime and HBO. I think our favorite at the moment is a new show called Game of Thrones because it is really similar to Lord of the Rings and that is by far and away our favorite movie. I guess I'm just lucky that my husband and I have such similar interests and that we enjoy spending time together. At the end of the day I suppose it's not that bad at what we really look forward to is being alone and cuddling in front of a great show!
There are very few things I enjoy more than snuggling up with my husband on the couch after a long day at work. I know it's so typical and American but we are really lazy when it comes to being at home… All we want to do is turn on the TV and veg out for a few hours. I recently went to www.tvbydirect.com to see about getting us some of the premium movie channels because all my friends kept talking about all the great shows on Showtime and HBO. I think our favorite at the moment is a new show called Game of Thrones because it is really similar to Lord of the Rings and that is by far and away our favorite movie. I guess I'm just lucky that my husband and I have such similar interests and that we enjoy spending time together. At the end of the day I suppose it's not that bad at what we really look forward to is being alone and cuddling in front of a great show!
Saturday, February 4, 2012
Domestic Violence Still Kills
My heart has been heavy for the last few weeks. There have been so many tragic deaths...including celebrities. But the ones that hit me the hardest are those associated with domestinc abuse.
Please realize that domestic violence/abuse has no socio-economic limitations. It affects so very many women...and men too. You may see a person everyday and never know that they are dealing with this at home.
If your partner displays violent or abusive tendencies, pleas don't think that you can change that person. YOU CAN'T! DON'T TRY TO! You need to remove yourself from that situation at the first sign of violent or abusive behavior.
Here are some tell tale signs:
Do you:
1. feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
2. avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
3. feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
4. believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
5. wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
6. feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Does your partner:
1. humiliate or yell at you?
2. criticize you and put you down?
3. treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
4. ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
5. blame you for their own abusive behavior?
6. see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
7. or my personal favorite: does your parter hide your blood pressure medication knowing that you need to take it daily?
8. have a bad and unpredictable temper?
9. hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
10. threaten to take your children away or harm them?
11. threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
12. force you to have sex?
13. destroy your belongings?
Remember: It Is Still Abuse If . . .
The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to those you have read about, seen on television or heard other women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being pushed, for example.
The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two times in the relationship. Studies indicate that if your spouse/partner has injured you once, it is likely he will continue to physically assault you.
The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move about freely and see others, and to make decisions. It is not a victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a partner in exchange for not being assaulted!
There has not been any physical violence. Many women are emotionally and verbally assaulted. This can be as equally frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.
Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska
THERE IS HELP FOR YOU!
For Women:
In the U.S., call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.
Canada: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-363-9010.
Australia: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 200 526.
Or visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a worldwide list of helplines, shelters, and crisis centers.
Male victims of abuse can call:
In the US, The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women specializes in supporting male victims of abuse and offers a 24-hour helpline: 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).
UK: ManKind Initiative offers a national helpline at 01823 334244.
Australia: One in Three Campaign offers help and resources for male victims.
Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
Please realize that domestic violence/abuse has no socio-economic limitations. It affects so very many women...and men too. You may see a person everyday and never know that they are dealing with this at home.
If your partner displays violent or abusive tendencies, pleas don't think that you can change that person. YOU CAN'T! DON'T TRY TO! You need to remove yourself from that situation at the first sign of violent or abusive behavior.
Here are some tell tale signs:
Do you:
1. feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
2. avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
3. feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
4. believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
5. wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
6. feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Does your partner:
1. humiliate or yell at you?
2. criticize you and put you down?
3. treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
4. ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
5. blame you for their own abusive behavior?
6. see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
7. or my personal favorite: does your parter hide your blood pressure medication knowing that you need to take it daily?
8. have a bad and unpredictable temper?
9. hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
10. threaten to take your children away or harm them?
11. threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
12. force you to have sex?
13. destroy your belongings?
Remember: It Is Still Abuse If . . .
The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to those you have read about, seen on television or heard other women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being pushed, for example.
The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two times in the relationship. Studies indicate that if your spouse/partner has injured you once, it is likely he will continue to physically assault you.
The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move about freely and see others, and to make decisions. It is not a victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a partner in exchange for not being assaulted!
There has not been any physical violence. Many women are emotionally and verbally assaulted. This can be as equally frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.
Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska
THERE IS HELP FOR YOU!
For Women:
In the U.S., call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.
Canada: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-363-9010.
Australia: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 200 526.
Or visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a worldwide list of helplines, shelters, and crisis centers.
Male victims of abuse can call:
In the US, The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women specializes in supporting male victims of abuse and offers a 24-hour helpline: 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).
UK: ManKind Initiative offers a national helpline at 01823 334244.
Australia: One in Three Campaign offers help and resources for male victims.
Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
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