One of the fundamental ingredients for a wholesome marriage,
or for any healthy relationship whether it be mother and son, brother or sister
or friendships with those outside our family, is honesty.
With this in mind, the fundamental issue behind Kendall
Hayes’s book ‘Season of Hope’ isn’t that of homosexuality; whether or not
homosexuality is right or wrong; whether they should be permitted to marry or
not, that has no relevance to the story in which Hayes tell. Some might try to read this into her writings
for their own personal reasons or seek to twist her intentions to make it seem
as if the topic of the book has to do with the homosexuality of one of its
characters but that would be not only incorrect, it also would be yet another
missed opportunity for open and honest discussion on a very important issue.
It is such honest discussion that is sorely missing in our
communities today. Think about it: When was the last time your church,
synagogue or Masjid spoken about the role of marriage as related to
homosexuality? What about your friends, those in your peer group?
When I say ‘discuss the issue’, I do not mean having some
superficial and momentary discussion about homosexual and heterosexual
relationships but a deeper, more balanced evaluation of the subject from both
sides of the coin, meaning from a gay and straight perspective. You have
probably not had such discussions or, if you have, very few.
Yet we need to do so. Faith based groups shy away from the
topic and just makes a stand one way or another according to their traditions
and beliefs and that is that. Our friends might mention it as a conversation
piece; state their formed opinion, probably laced with lewd jests, without any
significant exploration of the matter and move on to the next topic.
However there are gay people who are married or in
relationships with straight people who have no idea that their significant
other or spouse is attracted to members of the same-sex, or, for that matter,
gay people in relationships with someone whom they did not know were straight.
This is why of
‘Seasons of Hope,’ is such an important book; it brings to the light that which
we have left lurking in the shadows far too long; it raises an important issue
which we have publicly ignored and socially suppressed far too many times.
My hope is that after you read the book, you will discuss it
with your friends, family members and those in the groups and organizations to
which you belong.
This fascinating book is more than just a good read it is a
step towards the light.
Nathaniel Lee